If you're on loopback and you'd like to close that gap, you need to turn
on SIO_LOOPBACK_FASTPATH. I've no idea if ASIO can do that for you, I'm
still on a pre-churn ASIO. An alternative is to bind to a real NIC, and
not go via loopback.
You can set any option you want on the underlying socket with socket::native_handle()